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Timothy Griffin: Looking Up

Love of My Life

(Timothy Griffin)
June 9, 2012

nicoleandtim_resized.jpgAt the age of 21, I had the opportunity to begin serving as one of the leaders of a high school youth group at a church in Atlanta. In serving, there were many of the young people that I thought were going places and I appreciated the opportunity to work with them.

Fast-forward 21 years, one of those teens is now serving in the Secret Service, two are band directors, one is an engineer, a few are business owners and at least one is in full-time Christian service. And one is my wife.

Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” I have found a good thing and have found favor and for that I thank God.

It’s crazy to look back and see how God does things. But somewhere in the process of time, she went down between the hedges at UGA for her bachelors, I went up to the snowy tundra that is Syracuse for my masters. She graduated, I graduated – I returned, she returned – all grown up, and the rest has become our story.

Eleven years ago today I had the privilege of marrying a beautiful, godly young lady that I admired. I find her no less beautiful today and my admiration for her has only grown over the years as we have grown together, but more importantly as we have grown in God.

Thank God, most of the disagreements we have now are not over the same things we disagreed on 11 years ago. And even those points of contention that are the same have different processes and much shorter duration periods.

looking_up.jpgFor my part, there is still the pride of being a human that makes me let some things linger longer than I should, but I am learning to die to myself in marriage each day, just as I die to myself daily in Christ. In doing so, the “I” of me becomes more the “we”. The more we allow ourselves to become one, the more God can show his power in our marriage as an example of the love He has for his bride, the Church, spoken of in Ephesians 5.

Of course, the key is for us to avoid the format of those horrible horror movies where the villain just won’t stay dead. The parts that die need to stay dead.  

Reflecting back to Proverbs 18, God didn’t give me a woman that is perfect, he gave me a woman that was good. But as we allow Him, he is perfecting each of us.

So, as I sang to my wife on our wedding day, I still can say today, “Lord today I praise You for giving me the love of my life. She’s far above rubies and so beautiful, thank you for the love of my life.”